A Sad Note from Hamdallaye
Last Wednesday I came back from Zinder to Niamey. Coming to the Peace Corps hostel I found out I had missed all the other members of my stage who had already departed to the training village, Hamdallaye, for our two week In-Service Training (IST). By chance, I bumped into a good friend of my host-family’s, Mamadou, who was on the same mini-van taxi with me for the ride out to Hamdallaye. Apparently he had been trying to get a hold of me the last few days and my ex-roomate hadn’t been able to track down my number. But just about 10 days ago the father of my host family passed away. Perhaps a day or two after the two of us had exchanged happy greetings and text messages. Mamadou told me that he was at his side when he had a heart attack in a mosque during prayer.
He was always kind and welcoming to me and my roomate, Nate. And he certainly had his moments of tenderness with his family. He loved playing checkers with us and further got a kick out of watching me teach his littlest kids a number of secret handshakes. The day before we left, he said he was going to miss hearing his kids shout out me and my Nate’s Nigerien names when we came back each evening from training. Further, in a rarity for Niger, he was putting every last one of his kids into the schools (including all the girls of school age). In a country with a female enrollment rate of something ghastly like 15% that is truly amazing.
On top of the personal tragedy of his own death, I fear that his passing also has severe implications for his wife and the eight kids he left behind. Nigerien culture is extremely patriarchal, and for the ten total members of his family (plus the other cousins and familial extensions who often came to join them for long stretches), he provided the sole source of income. While the family members said they didn’t know what the future would hold, Mamadou told me that it is was most likely that they would be forced to break up and live with other family members. I’m further not sure what that means for the prospect of continuing studies for the children. And when schooling ends for girls in Niger, that tends to be quickly followed by marriage. Though, my worries are getting well ahead of me, and I honestly know little about the financial solidity of the rest of the family.
In the end, I realize that I was really lucky to have the chance to live and spend a very very special 9 weeks with this family. They were the family who welcomed me to Niger, and their faces will be synonymous with my first impressions of and first experiences in this country. I caught them in what was in retrospect their last hurrah, and I can’t make clear enough how grateful I feel to them.
So I’ll leave other news to another post sometime later. Though briefly I’ll just say that I’m still doing well and seeing the other PCVs from my class is fun. So don’t worry about me, I’m doing fine but send your positive thoughts towards the family of Hamid Alwili.
He was always kind and welcoming to me and my roomate, Nate. And he certainly had his moments of tenderness with his family. He loved playing checkers with us and further got a kick out of watching me teach his littlest kids a number of secret handshakes. The day before we left, he said he was going to miss hearing his kids shout out me and my Nate’s Nigerien names when we came back each evening from training. Further, in a rarity for Niger, he was putting every last one of his kids into the schools (including all the girls of school age). In a country with a female enrollment rate of something ghastly like 15% that is truly amazing.
On top of the personal tragedy of his own death, I fear that his passing also has severe implications for his wife and the eight kids he left behind. Nigerien culture is extremely patriarchal, and for the ten total members of his family (plus the other cousins and familial extensions who often came to join them for long stretches), he provided the sole source of income. While the family members said they didn’t know what the future would hold, Mamadou told me that it is was most likely that they would be forced to break up and live with other family members. I’m further not sure what that means for the prospect of continuing studies for the children. And when schooling ends for girls in Niger, that tends to be quickly followed by marriage. Though, my worries are getting well ahead of me, and I honestly know little about the financial solidity of the rest of the family.
In the end, I realize that I was really lucky to have the chance to live and spend a very very special 9 weeks with this family. They were the family who welcomed me to Niger, and their faces will be synonymous with my first impressions of and first experiences in this country. I caught them in what was in retrospect their last hurrah, and I can’t make clear enough how grateful I feel to them.
So I’ll leave other news to another post sometime later. Though briefly I’ll just say that I’m still doing well and seeing the other PCVs from my class is fun. So don’t worry about me, I’m doing fine but send your positive thoughts towards the family of Hamid Alwili.

